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Our State of the Union…

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

Last night, your favorite southern couple had our bi-annual “State of the Union” or “budget committee meeting”.  Basically, a time when we sit down and review our budget and re-vamp any budgeted items that are receiving too much money or not enough money.  Now, we talk about our budget line items that affect us on a weekly basis, on a weekly basis.  These are the things we do every week, like buy groceries and gas.  The bi-annual committee meeting is for the things we don’t look at all the time, like web hosting fees and legal fees etc. 

As I said above, we also go over our budget reports to understand what is being under-funded and what is being over-funded.  We look at EVERY budget item.  Last night, we had to increase the money funding our medical budget and our grocery budget (I swear the grocery stores just keep raising the prices!).  Now, you might be asking “how do you increase a line item?”, and the answer is simple; Something else has to be cut back.  We took the money from our monthly savings (grudgingly) to fund the additional money needed for the medical and grocery budget items.  What if you have no savings?  Then you have to cut back on another line item, like cable, telephone or Internet.  Is your budget so slim that you don’t have ANYextras?  Then you need to try cost cutting to bring your spending in line with your budgeted amount, or increase your income to cover the overages.  It’s simple math…your budget must be balanced!  If there aren’t enough funds, you must cut back, or make more!

Now I challenge you to have your own budget committee meeting (if you’re single, you still need to have the meeting with just yourself, or a friend/family member you trust to share this info with)!  Sit down and figure out how much you spent on all your expenses this last year!  How much did you go over? Under?  Do you even have a budget?  First things first, you need a budget.  Get out a pen and paper, and write down all of your expenses, in order of importance (1. housing, 2. food, 3. electricity etc.), then write down your income.  Assign amounts to each category.  If you run out of income before you reach the bottom, then you either need to cut back your expenses, or increase your income.  Did you reach the bottom with money to spare?  Great!  If you have debt, use the money to pay it off, if not, start saving an emergency fund for 3-6 months worth of expenses, and after that, for retirement! 

It’s our opinion that money works for you and not against you if you watch it like a hawk.  Don’t give yourself the opportunity to mess up!  Start this year off right, and take your budget committee meeting to the kitchen table tonight!

You shouldn’t always pick it up!

Monday, December 21st, 2009

Today’s Mucho Moolah tip is simple but effective: Look, but don’t touch!  All too often, when we go shopping, even if we tell ourselves that we’re only window shopping (a difficult task for most people), we still end up buying things.  Why is that?  Well, it’s because when we look at things, we want to touch them as well.  The retailers know this about us, since they have paid big bucks to do research on how and why consumers spend money, and they not only have figured out that putting a sweater, for example, on a table is inviting, they know that if you pick it up, you’re more likely to buy it!  Not only that, but the longer you hold onto the item, or carry it around with you, the more your sense of ownership has increased, making you even more likely to buy it!  Whew, have they got us figured out or what?

So, keep our advice in mind, and don’t touch it!  If you’re the type of person to go out for “retail therapy” (do NOT get me started on how much I loathe that phrase, and what it implies), then you need to find something to do with your hands.  Put them in your pocket, carry a big bag in your hands, text etc.  Finding something to do with your hands could save you a lot of money over the course of the month, because every time you see a $200 and don’t buy it, that’s $200 in your pocket for something else, which I hope will be savings!

Gen Y-ers grow up!

Friday, December 18th, 2009

Today’s article is from Foxbusiness.com, and is titled Growing Up Financially Is Hard to Do by: Gail Buckner.  It’s some interesting commentary on how the Gen Y-ers are responding to the recent economic turmoil!

Generation Y is a term applied to those people currently 22 to 33 years old, of which, I am a member.  These people are typically the offspring of Baby Boomers, and according to many in the work force, are nothing like their parents, especially in how they view their jobs.  In the past, this (my) generation has been characterized as a bunch of job-hoppers.   But now that they and their friends are experiencing layoffs and financial problems, the number of those surveyed that had changed jobs in the last 2 years dropped from 40% to almost half of that, and almost a quarter of them plan to stay with their employer until they retire…now there’s some surprising information!

Another interesting thing of note, however, is that the economy and higher rates of unemployment have changed the optimism and confidence typically displayed by this group of people, and they are becoming more financially conservative…all I have to say is that it’s about time! 

Apparently, a new survey shows that 41% of Gen Y-ers have become more fiscally conservative in the last year, and nearly 2/3 say they’re “trying to save more now than a year ago”.  I think that is incredible!  To know that a lot of people from my generation are waking up and saving is great.  And as far as retirement, in the last year the number of Gen Y-ers that are saving for retirement rose from 18% to 53%, but the majority of them are only focused on an emergency fund (which is a good start!).  Considering that more than 30% of Gen Y-ers owe more than $5,000 in credit card debt, saving for an emergency and/or retirement is a nice change of pace. 

No matter what their motives, the Generation Y group has started to notice the benefits of saving money and job security.  I have feared that my fellow Gen Y-ers would never learn this lesson, but I am happily wrong.  Maybe it was the economy, maybe it was the fact that it became cool to be a “recessionista”…or maybe it was that we got tired of hearing the word “recessionista”, and started watching our money to get people to quit using that word…either way, it happened, and hopefully it’s here to stay!

Stop enabling your grown children!

Monday, December 14th, 2009

It is estimated that Baby-Boomers provide $59,000 in monetary help to their grown children over a typical 5 year period.  If you’re a Boomer, you want a money saving tip?  Stop enabling your children by supplementing their income and either cut them off completely or cut your “gifts” down by 75%-85%! 

This is one of the most ridiculous things going on in our society right now.  I cannot believe that Boomers are giving so much to their grown, totally able to work (even if that job is “beneath them”) adult children.  I mean, come on…so what if the job doesn’t pay $100,000 a year with nice perks etc.  There is value in being able to say you are making it on your own.  Let’s break down that number above…$59.000 in 5 years is roughly $12,000 a year, or $1,000 a month!  That is a part time job!  You want that lifestyle?  Don’t get it from your parents, who would like to retire soon!

The bottom line is this:  If you’re a Boomer and are looking at your retirement nest-egg, realizing that retirement is going to be tough (if possible at all now or in the future), then you need to evaluate where your money is going.  If, that money is going to your children, it is time to cut them off!  They can have what’s left when you’re gone (if anything) and do what they want with it at that time.  Why would you risk your livelihood on their new car/home improvement etc.?  Teach them the hard lesson that sometimes you have to take care of yourself.  They will have to learn that lesson when you’re gone anyway, and it will be easier if they have your shoulder to cry on when they learn that lesson.

Are you the child of a Baby-Boomer?  Do you “borrow” money from them that you never pay back?  Perhaps it’s time for you to realize that you’re draining their retirement money, and that you need to grow up and pay your own way.  Nowhere in the “how to be a parent” handbook does it say that your parents are responsible for paying your way from birth to YOUR retirement!  Cut them a little slack!  If you can’t live without all of those nice things that you’re buying with their money, get a part time job…otherwise, perhaps it’s time you learned to live within your means!

You’ve used it for swimming! The buddy system gets an update!

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

Today I wanted to talk about a great way to help control your spending (or over-spending).  A method of checks and balances, so to speak.  The buddy system!  You remember the buddy system.  Perhaps you used it at the swimming pool or when going to a public restroom as a child, or perhaps you used it when in the grocery store with your older siblings…either way, you’ve done it before, and if you’re struggling with spending money (are you a spend-thrift?), you need to do it again!

Okay, so here’s your refresher course, not that most of you need it!  When you’re out shopping, and you see something you like, you can approach it 1 of 2 ways.  The first way (the one we opt for) is to call your spending buddy and tell them what you’re thinking of buying.  If they think it’s frivolous, they can talk you out of the purchase before you buy it.  The second option is to call your spending buddy after you’ve made the purchase and try and defend it.  The difference is usually how bad you can be made to feel.  Think about it…if you call during your shopping, they can stop you from buying it and praise you for putting it up.  If, however, you choose to call your spending buddy after the purchase, while defending it you could feel very guilty for the purchase and it could cause problems in the relationship.  I think it’s worth the risk to the relationship, however, if it teaches a spend-thrift a hard lesson to learn!

Some other information worth noting…if you choose your significant other as your spending buddy (which is the system your favorite southern couple has in place), you had better be sure you have an absolutely solid relationship that cannot be shaken by a little  criticism and guilt.  My advice would be to try it on a temporary basis for a week or two before deciding to put it in place as your go-to system.  If you find that your feelings are hurt by your significant other, and you can’t get past it, stop the trial before real problems follow and both of you should choose someone else to be your spending buddy.  Who makes a good spending buddy?  Someone you look up to or respect.  A person that can criticize you without losing your friendship or relationship.  This could be your mother, sister, brother or best friend.  You decide who works best for you, but just get the system in place.  The quicker you start the buddy system, the more money you’ll save!

Self esteem and faking success.

Friday, November 27th, 2009

Today I’m not using an article, I’m using a blog post from a man I respect very much…Dan Miller.  The post is titled Fake Success?, and it centers on a man who went to his high school reunion pretending to be a Naval Officer…bad news for him, because one of his former classmates IS a Naval Officer, and he got reported to the FBI.  Sense it’s a crime to impersonate military personnel, he could spend a year in prison.  I bet he wishes he’d gone as himself…a bank teller. 

We have all seen this in our own lives, if not to the extent of jail time.  Somebody tells a little white lie on their resume to make themselves sound better for the job.  People update their statuses to make themselves sound more fabulous and exciting than they really are.  They embellish the problems they had on their car ride/plane ride etc. to make you feel sorry for them.  Whatever the situation, people like to exaggerate when it comes to who they are and what they do.  The sad part is, who we are IS enough for most people, and the people it isn’t enough for are not worth your time!  Do you really want to spend your life trying to impress other people with lies, or live your life, whatever it is, without the embellishments?

Do you find yourself inventing things when you share your history with other people?  Are there things that you’d like to change about yourself, or are you happy with who you are?  If you have things you’d change, have you written them down, and set up a plan to change what you’re not happy with?  That would be where I would start!  Good luck!

More about the recession.

Friday, November 13th, 2009

Today’s article is Earth to economists: Recession isn’t over, by Carla Fried.  It’s an interesting look at the divide between the people who believe the recession is over, and those that think we’re still in it for a while.

Conflicting information is what the author cites as a problem.  An advanced estimate of the annualized 3rd quarter GDP was up 3.5%, but consumer spending fell 0.5% in September.  The GDP numbers are a result of government spending, and, as you would expect, unemployment, and the fear of unemployment are the result of the slump in consumer spending.  The fact is, a recent poll showed 58% of people (October)  still believe the recession is hanging on, up from 52% (September).  And while public opinion certainly isn’t the only factor in the economy, it DOES factor into the economy.  This is obvious…if people think the economy is down, it affects the way the go about their daily lives, and what they do and don’t spend.

You see, there are a lot of opinions out there on where this country and it’s citizens are headed thanks to this economic mess.  Some are saying that we are fine and that everything will go back to “normal” soon, and some conspiracy theorists seem to think we’re going to become third world nation.  The truth, thankfully, is probably somewhere in the middle.   If you read the original article, you should check out some of the absolutely ignorant and insane comments posted by readers.  I’m no economist, but I’m also not going to listen to anyone whose claims sound outlandish at best and pray on the fear and ignorance of other people.  My guess is that the economic turmoil will continue for a while…how long? I have no idea.  The economy needs to correct itself from the inflated values that  we placed on our assets (namely, our houses), and until it corrects itself, I don’t think things can get better.  However, I DO think things will get better.  Banks will start lending again, companies will start hiring again and people will start spending again.  Do I think it will go back to the way things were? No, and I hope it doesn’t.  We shouldn’t expect to buy a home and 3 years later move with 50% equity because of the jump in value…that’s not right.  Slow and steady wins the race people.  When things start to improve, you will have to SAVE your money and PAY DOWN your mortgage for there to be equity in it…and that’s the way it SHOULD be!

Lay-a-way…It’s back!

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

For a very long time, I didn’t hear anything about lay-a-way.  The stores I visited didn’t seem to offer it, and the commercials on T.V. didn’t suggest it as a shopping method.  That has changed recently, and I am quite happy about it!

You see, it’s become part of our culture to shop-shop-shop.  Retail therapy, they call it.  Think about that statement.  They want you to come and spend money to make yourself feel better.  Is that the way we should be relieving stress/improving our mood?  I don’t think so.  It’s an instant gratification thing.  We are like children with a shiny new toy…retail therapy!  How ridiculous!  Sounds like we’re simply encouraging ourselves to act like children.  I think we should act like adults.  Adults save up for things.  They have delayed gratification.  They don’t get retail therapy, they relieve stress by being with friends and family (or getting a REAL therapist, not one that doubles as a satchel purse and is called Louis Vuitton).  This, is why I like lay-a-way.  It allows people who don’t have the cash to pay for something all at once an option that doesn’t charge high interest and isn’t a credit card.  As a bonus, you don’t get the merchandise until you pay for it in it’s entirety, so it teaches delayed gratification!

I should note that we don’t really use lay-a-way ourselves, because, as most of you know, we save up throughout the year to pay for the things we want.  We have a Christmas category in our budget, that receives money each and every week.  This ensures we will have the money that we have determined we want to spend on the holiday, in time for said holiday (and in case you’re wondering, we determine the amounts in all budget categories at our “new year new budget” committee meeting, held in January).  If however, you haven’t been keeping up with your budget (and I really hope you have), then lay-a-way is the way to go for you.  Just remember this phrase…I WILL NOT use credit cards on presents!

Sick and tired of being sick and tired…

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

So, I know most of you are wondering where I was on Monday, and the truth is, I was laying on the couch with a fever, coughing my head off and blowing my nose enough so that, today, I could give Rudolph a run for his money.  I’m still sick, so today’s post will be short and sweet.  Today I want to give tips for avoiding colds and the flu (all of them).

  • When you shake hands with someone, make sure you follow it up with washing your own hands.  Washing your hands often sends the germs down the drain.
  • Stop touching your face.   Your eyes and nose are common places for germs to get you.   Hands off!  (This, unfortunately, is probably how I got sick.)
  • Get some sleep already!  It just makes sense that you need more sleep when you’re sick, so rest a lot and sleep more!
  • Get your flu shot!  Chances are, if you’re worried about the flu, you’ve already got a flu shot, but I would be remiss if I didn’t mention it.
  • Eat healthy foods.  You might feel that people harp on eating fruits and veggies all the time, but when  you’re sick, it’s a must.  The vitamins in these foods help your body heal itself.
  • Exercise.  Now, you knew that I was going to include this one!  Working out enhances your immune system, which we could all use.  A helpful hint, however, is to be sure and wash hands/use hand sanitizer often while at the gym, and not touch your face (this, again, is probably where I got into trouble.  I can’t help but wipe the sweat from my face…big no no).
  • If you think they’re sick, stay back!  When you see people who are obviously sick, don’t get close.  It doesn’t matter if they’re a stranger, your boss or a member of your family, keep your distance.
  • Use Hand sanitizer.  Make sure you buy the right kind.  Sanitizer and wipes that aren’t alcohol based won’t be as effective.
  • If you double dip, don’t share the dip.   I don’t judge you fro double dipping, but if you do, get your own dip, so others aren’t sharing your germs.  You can always spoon out some dip on your plate, so you and your friends/family aren’t germ swapping!
  • Ditch the cloth purse.  Purses collect germs, since they end up on surfaces covered with germs.  Cloth purses will hold more germs, since they can’t be wiped down easily.  Use leather/vinyl etc. purses in winter months, and wipe them down.
  • Sneeze into the crook of your elbow.    It sounds weird, but your hands usually have germs on them, so sneezing in them couls spread more germs.

If you’re already sick, here are some tips:

  1. Stay home and medicate.  Don’t go out.  Don’t keep company.  Just stay in and get better (hence, I’ve been stuck in this house since Sunday.  I’m not happy about it, but it’s the smart thing to do.).
  2. Pay attention to your symptoms.  If you keep getting worse, contact your doctor.  It might not be a cold, it could be the flu, a sinus infection, bronchitis, walking pneumonia etc.
  3. Hydrate.  Keep drinking fluids, because dehydration can make you worse.  If you’re not able to keep down fluids, contact your doctor.

That’s it!  For more info on avoiding whatever illness is going around in your local community, contact your doctor or your local health department.  FYI, your local health department is a valuable tool, and has a wealth of information…use it!

Halloween Safety Tips!

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

Halloween is this Saturday, and since I think it is a wonderful holiday for you/your children to participate in, I wanted to share some safety tips in this post!

Tips for child Halloween activities:

  • Pick out or make a costume that will be safe. Make it flame retardant, and the eye holes should be large enough for good peripheral vision.
  • Warn children not to eat any treats before an adult has carefully examined them for evidence of tampering.
  • Treat your kids to a spooky Halloween dinner.  It will make them less likely to eat their candy before you check it for them.
  • Be sure older children TAKE FRIENDS and younger children are accompanied by a TRUSTED ADULT when “Trick or Treating” OR…
  • Know the route your kids will be taking if you aren’t going with them!
  • Explain to children the difference between tricks and vandalism.   “Egging” a house may seem like fun but they need to know that it is vandalism and the  clean up and damages can ruin Halloween. If they are caught vandalizing, make them clean up the mess they’ve made, and pay for the damages, no matter how long it takes them to pay/work it off!
  • Children should go only to homes where the outside lights are on as a sign of welcome.
  • Teach children to NEVER enter a home without prior permission from their parents or guardians.  This does not include their teenage babysitter or sibling.
  • Teach children to NEVER approach a vehicle, occupied or not, unless they are accompanied by
    a parent or adult guardian.
  • Make sure children carry a flashlight or glow stick to see and be seen.
  • Teach children if anyone tries to grab them to make a scene; scream things like “this person is not my father/mother/guardian”; and make every effort to get away by kicking, screaming, and resisting.

Tips for adult Halloween activities:

  • Keep an eye on the drinking, don’t let it get out of hand.
  • Take the keys away from anyone that may be driving, and be sure everyone knows they are welcome to sleep over, even if they have to crash on the floor.
  • Have one person stay sober and offer to drive those people home who may have had too much to drink.
  • When deciding on a menu, check and see if anyone attending the party has food allergies that might be a problem, and be sure you have a few dishes for those friends who are vegetarians!
  • Don’t forget to watch who’s coming in and out of your house.  

That’s it boys and girls!  Get out there and have fun this Halloween, but be safe! 

For more info, or the sources for these tips, check here, here and here!