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Don’t be afraid to say NO!!

Monday, January 11th, 2010

This Mucho Moolah Money tip is probably more for our younger readers, but hopefully all of the readers will find some value in it!  I wanted to talk about saying no, canceling services and returning items.  I don’t know why, but for some reason, we have a negative stigma in this country about it!  This is completely ridiculous!

When we buy something or request a service, it is perfectly within our right to return it or cancel it, for whatever reason we deem worthy, with the exception of damage that we caused.  Why then, do some people fear returning things or canceling services?  My guess would be that it has to do with the marketing of retail companies, the “strength” of the sales people, and the idea that people (friends, family, the cashier) will think poorly of us for returning it. 

Well, as far as the retail companies go, they spend millions (maybe even billions) on marketing every year, so why wouldn’t they be able to give us the idea that we shouldn’t cancel their service, or return their product.  You have to stay strong and recognize this tactic for what it is…marketing, period. 

As for the sales people?  It’s their job to be pushy, get you to buy something, and, if you come back to return the product or cancel the service, convince you that you shouldn’t.  They aren’t looking out for your needs (in general…there are exceptions, but very few) and they don’t really want to be your friend…they just want their boss to see that they are doing their jobs, and that is it.  So what do you do/say when you want to return something or cancel a service and the sales team won’t “let” you?  Before you go back to the store in question, decide on what you’re going to say.  Let’s say that you are going to say “the device doesn’t work as promised, and I’d like a refund…here is my receipt.”.  Now, if/when they try to talk you out of it, you simply, but firmly repeat your first statement.  Repeat it again, and again, if you have to.  If you still haven’t made them listen, ask for a manager, and state the same sentence for them.  Eventually, they will decide you aren’t worth their time, and will do as you ask. 

When it comes to our friends and family, we all want them to think we are financially stable and secure.  When we return an item or cancel a service, some of us fear that our friends will think we don’t have the money to pay for it, and we feel embarrassed.  Whether or not this is true, it doesn’t matter.  Your business is your business, and keeping your budget balanced is more important than what someone thinks of you and how much money you have.  Don’t worry about what they think.  It’s NONE of THEIR business!

No matter what you’re trying to return or cancel, never forget that it’s your money in question.  You paid for the item or service, because at the time, it was worth more than the money in your hand, but when you decide it is no longer worth that money, don’t feel that you don’t have the right to get it back (or stop paying for the service)!

Happy New Year 2010!

Friday, January 1st, 2010

Happy New Year 2010!  Enjoy the day with your friends and family, or recover quickly!

Merry Christmas 2009!

Friday, December 25th, 2009

Merry Christmas.  Go spend time with your family, as we will be having family time as well.

You’ve used it for swimming! The buddy system gets an update!

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

Today I wanted to talk about a great way to help control your spending (or over-spending).  A method of checks and balances, so to speak.  The buddy system!  You remember the buddy system.  Perhaps you used it at the swimming pool or when going to a public restroom as a child, or perhaps you used it when in the grocery store with your older siblings…either way, you’ve done it before, and if you’re struggling with spending money (are you a spend-thrift?), you need to do it again!

Okay, so here’s your refresher course, not that most of you need it!  When you’re out shopping, and you see something you like, you can approach it 1 of 2 ways.  The first way (the one we opt for) is to call your spending buddy and tell them what you’re thinking of buying.  If they think it’s frivolous, they can talk you out of the purchase before you buy it.  The second option is to call your spending buddy after you’ve made the purchase and try and defend it.  The difference is usually how bad you can be made to feel.  Think about it…if you call during your shopping, they can stop you from buying it and praise you for putting it up.  If, however, you choose to call your spending buddy after the purchase, while defending it you could feel very guilty for the purchase and it could cause problems in the relationship.  I think it’s worth the risk to the relationship, however, if it teaches a spend-thrift a hard lesson to learn!

Some other information worth noting…if you choose your significant other as your spending buddy (which is the system your favorite southern couple has in place), you had better be sure you have an absolutely solid relationship that cannot be shaken by a little  criticism and guilt.  My advice would be to try it on a temporary basis for a week or two before deciding to put it in place as your go-to system.  If you find that your feelings are hurt by your significant other, and you can’t get past it, stop the trial before real problems follow and both of you should choose someone else to be your spending buddy.  Who makes a good spending buddy?  Someone you look up to or respect.  A person that can criticize you without losing your friendship or relationship.  This could be your mother, sister, brother or best friend.  You decide who works best for you, but just get the system in place.  The quicker you start the buddy system, the more money you’ll save!

Borrow it!

Monday, November 9th, 2009

Today, I wanted to talk about a way to save money and get things done at the same time.  We all know that the holidays are fast approaching, and that means family visits, decorations, presents, donations, gelt etc., and that means a lot of money to be spent.  So, what do you do when you realize you need something, and don’t have the cash on hand?  Borrow it!  Just be sure to be responsible when you do it.

First, let me just say that there is NOTHING wrong with borrowing something if you need to.   I think somewhere along the way borrowing things fell out of favor, either because people weren’t responsible when they borrowed from friends or family, or because it became un-cool to borrow something, and so people just went and bought what they needed, even if they only needed it once etc.  This, in my opinion, is silly.  It makes much more financial sense for friends and family to share the things they have that other members of the friends or family might need, in exchange for the same courtesy. 

So, how do you borrow from friends and family without breaking the relationship?  Easy, follow these simple rules:

  • Don’t think that borrowing from a friend or family member is something you can do once a week.  People tend to get irritated if you’re at their house borrowing things all the time.  And, if you’re borrowing the same thing every week…face it, you DO NEED to buy it…it is obviously a necessity for you.
  • Return what you borrow in the EXACT SAME or BETTER condition that it was in when you took it home.  Nobody wants their stuff back broken.  If you borrow something, and cannot return it in the same condition because you’ve damaged it, then you must replace it.  I don’t care how much it costs, and I don’t care if you’re strapped for cash.  You broke it, you bought it.  If you don’t replace it, you could hurt the relationship between you and the borrowee. 
  • If the item you’re borrowing has a consumable (example, a pressure washer, which requires gasoline), you must replace it.  Do not return an item that uses, for example, gasoline, without a full tank.  It’s very thoughtless to do so.
  • Know that some things are ridiculous items to borrow.  A pressure washer, a punch bowl and a cup of sugar are all things that make sense to borrow when you need them.  Even a car is ok to borrow, if the friend or family member really trusts you, and you treat the car with extreme care.  A microwave and a T.V. are not items that make sense to borrow.  Do not show up and ask to take some one’s microwave.  If you did that to me, I’d laugh at you!

Basically, use your common sense.  Remember the saying, do unto others as you would have them do unto you?  Well, it applies when borrowing from friends and family.  Borrow when you need something, but be thoughtful while it’s in your care.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month! Free screenings for you or someone else!

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009

As many of you already know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  For me, it’s personal.  My mother, who is the greatest woman I’ve ever known, was diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2006.  I am not exaggerating when I say that I was scared out of my mind.  In truth, it probably didn’t help that my grandmother (my mom’s mother), whom I was also very close to, passed away just a few months earlier (not from breast cancer).  So, to me, it seemed like my world was crashing down around me.  I went through most of the recovery process with my mom.  She required both chemotherapy and surgery, and it was very hard to watch a woman who had been so strong for so long struggle.  It was…heartbreaking.  But, with the power of prayer and help from some of the best (and nicest) doctors I have ever met in my life, she has made a full recovery.  This experience, however, makes me think about how important it is to get screened for breast cancer, AKA, getting a mammogram.  What’s better, is that I found some information about ways to get them for free, or at least on the cheap, so people without health insurance can get screened as well.

The first website is called The Breast Cancer Site.  It is an interesting way to help those in need, but basically, you click the button (you can click once a day) and after a certain number of clicks (roughly 45,000) it donates a free mammogram to women in need across the country.  It is a for profit business, but is also supported by corporate sponsorship, so check it out and click the button, since you could save a life with that click.  Think it’s too good to be true?  Verify it here!

Another website is called liv.com.  It is a breast cancer awareness website that lists resources for women to get free or low cost mammograms.  The United States Center for Disease Control’s National Breast and Cervical Cancer Early Detection Program (NBCCEDP) is one resource you can use to get access to these low cost of free screenings.  Check out their website here.  Other websites listed on liv.com offering help to get screened on the cheap are The National Cancer Institute (supported by the U.S. Government), the American Cancer Society (the blue box in the middle right of the page “Find ACS in Your Community” is where you want to go.  You’ll need your zip code.  They can tell you what resources are available in your area.) and The American Breast Cancer Foundation’s Key to Life Breast Cancer Screening Assistance Program.  This last resource doesn’t have a website, but you can call them at 877-539-2543 to enroll in their program which provides financial assistance to uninsured and underinsured women and men for breast cancer testing.  If none of these suit your needs, call your local hospital and ask to speak to a social worker.  They are the hospital contact that will be aware of any free or low cost mammogram/cancer screenings in your area. 

Breast cancer won’t go away on it’s own.  The faster they catch it, the better your chances.  If my mom hadn’t been diligent in her screenings, I might have lost her, and that isn’t something I like to think about.  So you’re busy with kids and career.  It doesn’t matter, because you have to take care of yourself, no matter what is going on!  Think about it…if you don’t take care of yourself, who will take care of your priorities (kids etc.) when you’re gone?

Save money and have fun with a “potluck picnic”!

Monday, September 14th, 2009

I know that we’re getting close to the end of summer, but today’s tip can be used through the early part of fall, and revisited again in the spring.  Today’s Mucho Moolah tip is to have a “potluck picnic” with your friends!

Pick a park in an easily accessible location and invite a few friends to make a dish (someone should make the days menu, so you don’t end up with 5 side dishes and no main dish) to share with everyone.  Pack some blankets, board games, outdoor games (such as baseballs/gloves and Frisbee’s), plates/napkins/utensils and some music and set a time for everyone to meet up.  This will save everyone a ton of cash, since they only have to buy the ingredients for one dish and bring games etc. that they already have in their possession as opposed to the cost of dinner out and possibly drinks or a movie after that!  My suggestion is that you set the time for mid-afternoon, so that you can enjoy a couple of hours of games/gossip before grilling (if you’ve found a park with a public grill) or serving up every one’s dish.

Like this idea, and want to use it in the winter?  That’s OK! You just have to get a little creative!  Inform all the guests that you’re having a “potluck picnic” at your  house, indoors, and that the dish they bring should be picnic appropriate food.  Set the mood by moving out some of the furniture in the main room(s) you’ll be entertaining in and spreading out blankets and pillows for your guests to get comfy on.  Have board/card games set out and ready to play (no cheating though, so keep TVs and other electrical devices off, with maybe the exception of a radio, which could be brought to a picnic).  Have a signature drink for the picnic, something summery/fruity or crisp.  The main goal is for everyone to have a good time without spending a lot, so again, keep it simple.  This way, everyone shares the cost and no one is out a lot of money!

Good luck with it!  Jerrill and I are already talking about having a winter time “potluck picnic”!  I haven’t even set a guest list and I already can’t wait!

Everybody Loves A Good Clips Episode…

Wednesday, August 26th, 2009

This week I wanted to revisit some of my previous posts that I find to be worth repeating, because when it comes to money and relationships, lessons need to be reinforced.  It’s the best way to stay focused!  Below, you will find links to some of our previous and a description.  We hope they keep you focused if you are doing well with your money and marriage (relationship) or get you back on track if you’ve lost your way. 

  • Can You Plan Spontaneity - This is a recent post, but it’s a good one, and it’s one of our trademark tips for a successful lifestyle .  The post outlines how we have built spontaneity into our budget (which works quite well, I assure you), achieving both spontaneity (to have a little mystery about special outings, gifts etc.) and budget restraint (so you have so money to retire on one day).
  • YOU are an emotional piggy bank -   This post has generated a lotof talk of the last few weeks.   You are an emotional piggy bank, taking in deposits and doling out payments from other people.  Just like a bank account or a piggy bank, you need to have more deposits coming in than payments going out for the system (i.e. you) to function.  People that drain too much from you, drain you, and you should spend time with them sparingly, if at all.  This, of course, is opposed to emotional boosts, who make lotsof deposits into your piggy bank.  You should spend as much time as possible around these special people.
  • Never forget where you started… - This post is a reminder of why you got married or into a relationship with your spouse/significant other, and some tips on how to make it work better or keep it working wonderfully!
  • Why your friends are costing you money, and what you can do to stop it! - This post is all about being friends with people who have a larger income than you and ways to avoid the pressure of spending too much money, or spending money that you don’t have when you hang out/spend time with them!
  •   So, going to the gym is like budgeting my finances? - This post draws parallels between going to the gym and budgeting your finances.  Not only are there insights into better ways to budget your money, but there are also a few tips on going to the gym!  You can’t beat that!

So, those are the blog posts that we’d like for you to go back and take a second look at!  Hopefully, you will find some information that helps you along in your life, or reaffirms what you already have in practice!

 

 

 

 

“clips episode” of previous posts that are “must reads”

Why your friends money matters…

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009

Everybody makes a different salary. It doesn’t matter if you work at the same place doing the same job or live in the same neighborhood, chances are, you don’t make the same money as your friends do. In theory, this doesn’t mean much, but in reality, it is far more dangerous than you might think!

When you go out with your friends, the money adds up. For a friend that makes half of what you do, it adds up DOUBLE! You have to keep in mind when you pick a place to get together, that not everyone makes what you do. There will always be friends who make more and friends who make less, so you should choose places that have a price point that ALL of you can comfortably afford! And if you make less than some of your friends, meet up with them after dinner, just for the movie or drinks, so you can save money!

It’s not that you want to “profile” your friends, or that you “feel sorry” for them, you just want to make sure that while you’re having a good time, your friends aren’t cringing at the cost of the evening. So keep this warning in mind: The next time you choose the place, you could be adding to your friends financial problems!

Mucho Moolah! Monday’s Money Saving Tips! Tips for men!

Monday, June 15th, 2009

Usually my Monday tips are geared toward the head household shopper. You know, the person in the house that buys the groceries, the clothing and all the other necessities a family requires…which is, in most cases, the women. Not today! Today is geared more toward the men in the house! I felt it was about time we helped out some men out there…

So, today we’re talking about ways to save money when you go to play or watch sports. Now, I know not all places offer discounts, but maybe there is a way to change what you normally do to save money. Here are a few examples:

  • Golf – Golf is a great sport to save money. Firstly, don’t get a cart! Let’s face it, you do get a workout in your upper body from swinging the clubs, but maybe a little cardio wouldn’t hurt your waistline, now would it…and you save big bucks, because they charge ridiculous amounts to rent them! Also, some golf courses will offer a discounted playing fee if you go in the evening! They know you can’t play the whole course, so they give you a price break! Check it out sometime when you need to save a little cash!
  • Tennis and Basketball – Both of these sports are high intensity and lots of fun, but renting the courts to play them on can be ridiculous, especially if no one else chips in! So, I say you should check out your local Parks and Recreation website/office. Parks and Rec usually have several places in your city/county that offer free tennis/basketball courts, among a whole lot of other wonderful amenities, some free, some pay, but ALL reasonable…check them out!
  • Watching Sports (either at the game, or at a sports bar) – 1 chilidog, 2 chilidog, 3 chilidog…floor! Let’s face it, when it comes to watching sports, we get so distracted we have no IDEA how much food or alcohol/soda we consume. Now, I wouldn’t dream of telling our readers to completely stop going out to a game or buying food and drink there, but I would ask you to cut back! The tickets are expensive, so maybe you go to 3 of the 5 games you would have went to this year. And skip some of the food. This time, only get 2 chilidogs versus 3 (and all the chips and other stuff you would get) and 2-3 beers instead of 4-5 and save yourself tons of cash. Only watch the game at your favorite sprots bar? That’s cool…you’re already saving on the cost of admission (i.e. free)! Now, look at the menu…whatever food you were going to order, either order half, or order items that were half the price of your usual food! You’ve already saved! Now, the same goes for the beer! Drink a little slower, and drink half as much as you normally would! You could be surprised at how much you save!

That’s it! A few good ways to save cash when playing or watching sports! I encourage our readers to try these tips and see how much they can save!