I love piggybanks. They are such a good example for so many things in our life. While talking with Jerrill this past weekend, he used it as an example for our emotions, and I wanted to share our insights today.
The fact is, most of us are an emotional piggybank. There are both deposits and withdrawals made to the piggybank, and to stay on track with your piggybank, you need to keep the “in-flow” equal to or greater than the “out-flow”. So, how do you keep the in-flow up? By surrounding yourself with the right type of people.
There are people in the world who are emotional drains. They are negative about other people, about themselves and about the world. They bring our mood and our spirit down and we feel worse after we have been around them. These people TAKE from our emotional piggybank. They are doing nothing for you emotionally except wearing down your spirit and your nerves. Now, they probably do not know that they are emotional drains to their friends and family, and it’s not like they have intentions of being this way…they just are.
The other side of the spectrum is the person who is an emotional boost to your life. They are the people who brighten your day. They are positive about other people and about the world in general. You leave their presence just as happy, if not happier, than when you arrived! These people GIVE to our emotional piggybank.
A person who once was a boost can become a drain if they have had something bad happen in their life and an emotional drain can become a boost if their life changes for the better. Hopefully, the drains in your life will eventually become a boost, but don’t count on it. Some people will always be a drain. It is your choice whether you keep them in your life.
In theory, you would do well not to have any emotional withdrawals from your piggybank at all. I have people in my life from each category, and being around those who deposit in my piggybank is a lot easier than being around those who make withdrawals. Your goal, like mine, should be to surround yourself with more emotional boosts than emotional drains so that your emotional piggybank is overflowing with deposits, and not impacted by the negativity of others.
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